Will you go for co-habitation?
Do you think you should get married for sexual relationship or you
think the legal ties as the essentiality for marriage? If your mind
is not setting any consent on it, then for sure you believe in
cohabitation.
Though the entire architecture of our society dare not to accept it,
the western society has already allowed it a permanent visa. A
relationship that is all like marriage but without any legal
provision is what cohabitation symbolizes for.
Of course, the relationship initiates from love and generally with a
goal of getting married. Some may even do so but most of the results
turn out to be a failure as the foundation of it is generally the
momentary or the romantic love which is uncertain and frazile.
Cohabitation is simply preparation for marriage and it claims that
one’s partner can be known and analyzed seriously before marriage so
that apt decision can be made either to continue the life with that
very partner or not. Some see it as an attempt to free oneself from
the legal ties and a replacement for marriage and mostly in the
divorced people the rate is alarmingly high.
The reduction of fear of pregnancy among the women with the
introduction of contraceptives, the feminist movement, sexual
awareness among people and less social stigma are the factors
responsible for it. Now most people in United States prefer
cohabitation than marriage and the number of unmarried American
couple has increased upto ten folds between 1960 to 2000. It is
believed that 41% of the American women aged 15-44 have cohabitted
once in their life-time.
Of course it has made sexual matters easier to talk with but the
negative consequences that it can bring cannot be ignored. Living
together mostly ends in separation and it’s the women who suffer the
most. Teen-age pregnancy, single parenthood is some of the
consequences that it may lead us to. Along with it arises the
question of economic inconvenience for a woman to rear her child,
the right of a child to get both paternal and maternal love and many
more. Moreover the surveys have clarified that living together
increases the rate of divorce. The couple that has lived together
before marriage cannot have a better marital life and a strictly
monogamous woman can only experience orgasm rather than other.
While analyzing the cohabitation, as the by-product of modern, busy
and technological century, are you sure that it is going to fulfill
all your expectations ranging from emotional, sexual and economic
needs? If you are, then it is your most suitable option.
-Richa Bhattarai
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